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Writer Olivia Nuzzi is one of several prominent women having “a moment” – all of them, for the same reason. (Credit: Olivia Nuzzi\u2019s <\/em>Instagram account<\/em><\/a>)<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

Despite a fall from grace sparked by numerous journalistic infractions, writer Olivia Nuzzi\u2019s new book, \u201cAmerican Canto,\u201d debuted this week following a significant media blitz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Released by publishing giant Simon & Schuster, her memoir largely focuses on her sordid past relationship with Robert F. Kennedy, Jr.<\/a>, currently the U.S. Secretary of Health and Human Services, back when he was a 2024 presidential candidate \u2013 and a primary source of hers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Between Nuzzi\u2019s anticipatory book excerpts<\/a> and a glossy, highly stylized profile in The New York Times<\/a>, another news story was breaking through that salacious din \u2013 one about University of Oklahoma student Samantha Fulnecky, who began garnering her own press coverage when Turning Point USA, the nonprofit for conservative youth founded by deceased pundit Charlie Kirk<\/a>, shared an essay<\/a> of Fulnecky\u2019s that had recently received a failing grade.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The reason this was even deemed newsworthy<\/a> in the first place: Fulnecky\u2019s essay, a psychology course assignment, asserted that traditional gender roles should not be considered \u201cstereotypes,\u201d pointing to the Bible as her sole evidentiary source. The failing grade was handed down, the instructor said, largely because of her argument\u2019s lack of empirical backing.<\/p>\n\n\n

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Both Nuzzi and Fulnecky are now enjoying full press rounds \u2013 and rewards. Major newspapers are reviewing \u201cAmerican Canto,\u201d with some even encouraging giving it a \u201chate-read<\/a>\u201d (from which she\u2019d profit all the same), all as she retains her job as an editor at Vanity Fair, as of publication, and lands onscreen interviews. Fulnecky, too, has received numerous sympathetic signal boosts from the likes of Fox News<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a reason why these women have been given book deals and nationally televised appearances \u2013 despite Fulnecky\u2019s story, especially, being of little broader consequence. There is a reason why they want grace in the face of wrongdoing, and tacit acceptance of their controversial work. There is a reason why they seem to expect<\/em> all of it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s because they\u2019re white women<\/a>. Classically beautiful ones, at that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The tendency of this particular group of women toward entitlement and victimhood is not imagined \u2013 in fact, it\u2019s all study-proven. Frequently summarized as \u201cwhite women\u2019s tears<\/a>,\u201d our defensiveness when we receive any sort of pushback has often been used by us to manipulate situations \u2013 specifically, situations where we white women are challenged in any way<\/a>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The result is usually that those at the centers of these stories are given passes for their failings \u2013 sometimes, they are even loudly defended. In regards to the two news items at hand: Op-eds<\/a> cite Nuzzi\u2019s troubled past as explanation for her questionable present-day morals; professors at other universities are leaping to Fulnecky\u2019s defense and slamming<\/a> her failing grade as \u201cinappropriate.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Research has also shown that when white women cry, there are often personal and professional consequences<\/a> for any less-privileged individuals who dared to push back against us. In Fulnecky’s case, the instructor who doled out the failing grade \u2013 who is reportedly a transgender individual<\/a> \u2013 has been placed on administrative leave.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It remains incumbent upon white women to unlearn our entitlement. It is our responsibility to spot patterns of false victimhood, in ourselves and in others, so that we may deaden it whenever we see it arising.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And, it is upon us, too, to appreciate how our privilege can instead be wielded in defense of others (rather than ourselves). We\u2019re less likely to be harmed by militaristic police forces, for example, and can therefore use our presence<\/a> \u2013 our bodies \u2013 to great protective effect at protests. Our comparatively easier access to funds can turn us into donors<\/a> with the power to build movements and create change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We\u2019re also more likely to be passed a metaphorical mic<\/a> \u2013 and we can do so much more with that power than just weep in defense of ourselves when we\u2019ve fallen short. ◼️<\/p>\n\n\n

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Writer Olivia Nuzzi and student Samantha Fulnecky have been elevated because they enjoy a privilege that can cause real harm, Candice Helfand-Rogers writes.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":62,"featured_media":81340,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"autoblue_enabled":true,"autoblue_custom_message":"Several prominent people are currently benefiting from white women\u2019s unique privilege in 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